I want to start of by apologizing for this extended absence and for not giving a warning and having some one baby sit the blog while I was away.
I really want to help you out, but I’m confused by this because bipolar disorder isn’t something you can control, ever, and most of us are on medications for the rest our lives to help with these moods. I don’t know why someone is telling you these things and I’m more than slightly concerned about it. If you could please write me again with more details ( you can send more than one ask or send a fanmail, i would never publish it) so I could better understand your circumstances I would like to try to help you out.
This is a tricky question because everyone behaves differently during an episode. In this situation my best advice would be to talk to your loved one when she is stable. Communication is of the most importance in all relationships but is especially essential in relationships where one or more partner is struggling with a mental illness. Your loved one knows her situation the best and therefor will have the best ideas on what you can say to help her!
Some other advice I can give is to keep in mind that you can’t change her mood, there are no magic words to make it all better, don’t put too much pressure or expectations on yourself. The best you can do is what you’re doing now, loving her and doing what you can to be there for her in the most proactive way possible.
On that note, things to avoid are going to be anything about how her episode is making you feel, anything resembling asking her to feel better or when this episode might pass, pretty much anything that would be putting blame on your loved one for her disorder. Now these are things you can discuss, sensitively, when she is stable.
Anyways, I would suggest talking with her as soon as possible and trusting her input on what will be best for her!
In most cases episodes in bipolar disorder don’t have an obvious trigger. But they CAN have a trigger, it’s usually a big one like a death in the family, losing a job, moving, anything that will change your day to day life.
Things like this aren’t dictated in stone. Just because it may not be “usual” doesn’t mean it’s impossible. And I’m certainly not going to tell you that just because your disorder doesn’t fit the content of this blog means that it’s not real or not true. Or that you didn’t experience what you say you experienced.
I’ve read multiple times that their are no obvious triggers for episodes in bipolar disorder, it’s one of the signs that a patient has bipolar and not another mood disorder. But this doesn’t mean that no single person with bipolar disorder can ever pinpoint their episode triggers. Triggers also come in the forms of not getting enough sleep, medication changes, changes in the weather, substance abuse or stress.
At the end of the day take this blog, and anything else that’s not said by a trusted professional, with a grain of salt and remember that mental disorders are very unique to the individual and can change drastically in the way they manifest person to person.
PS. Just because your treatment team asks that, doesn’t mean they always expect you to have an answer. It’s just one of those questions. So if the time comes that you don’t know what triggers an episode, don’t worry about it.