Anonymous asked: "Hey Dev! Is it possible to intercept a hypomanic episode if you notice the signs early enough? A few days ago I felt I was becoming hypomanic and took an oxazepam, and the next day I was back to normal. Is that actually a thing or did I experience something entirely different?"

I am no where near a professional in this, or any field, but I believe that oxazepam is an anxiety medication and it sounds like it did what it’s supposed to. Some people are fortunate enough to know themselves well enough to be able to catch the signs of an oncoming episode, being able to do that is something most people with mental illnesses strive to achieve. So way to go you for being able to spot those signs and doing what it took to slow yourself down <3 

xx Dev

 Anonymous asked: "Someone told me that I didn't look depressed and I don't know why but it really hurt me a lot. I tend to meet people during manic episodes (mostly). It hurts that nobody takes me seriously, although I'm in constant pain and work hard to appear normal"

Hi Anon. 

That is a really hurtful thing to hear. A lot of us have heard similar comments. Mental illnesses are really unique in that people without any schooling in the field still seem to feel entitled to make calls such as that. It hurts because this something that really puts a burden on our day to day lives, it hurts to feel invalidated. Feeling upset over that comment is a totally acceptable and natural reaction to have. 

I know it’s easier said than done, but unless this person is someone who is crucial to your treatment plan and well being, try your best to brush it off. You don’t need people to believe in your disorders. Them not seeing it doesn’t make it any less real, it doesn’t make your pain any less real or any less worth treating. More thank likely this person didn’t realize the weight of what they said and small comments like that don’t deserve any space or time in your mind. 

xx Dev

Hello Owls!  

For those interested the application to be an admin for FYBO is now up on fyboapp, the password is 4242. Please follow the directions provided and I look foreword to reading all your answers. 

Also I will be active on this blog today, finally responding to asks and setting up a queue and the like. 

Thank you all for your continued patience and support. 

Owl my love 

xx Dev

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Hi Owls! Some news! 

I want to start of by apologizing for this extended absence and for not giving a warning and having some one baby sit the blog while I was away.

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 Anonymous asked: "I have bipolar disorder, I'm only 14 and I'm always being told that eventually I can come off all my medications when I think i can control it. How would I be able to tell when I can control it? Not that I think I can now, but maybe I could I don't know. It'd be nice."

Hi Anon

I really want to help you out, but I’m confused by this because bipolar disorder isn’t something you can control, ever, and most of us are on medications for the rest our lives to help with these moods. I don’t know why someone is telling you these things and I’m more than slightly concerned about it. If you could please write me again with more details ( you can send more than one ask or send a fanmail, i would never publish it) so I could better understand your circumstances I would like to try to help you out. 

xx Dev

 Anonymous asked: "Hello there. I'm not bi-polar, but I'm absolutely in love with a wonderful woman who struggles with it. I see a lot of these memes with horrible, hurtful, and insensitive things people say, but I wonder, what /can/ I say? When she's manic, depressed, or whatever. Do you know any good things to try that aren't going to offend or make it worse?"

Hi Anon. 

This is a tricky question because everyone behaves differently during an episode. In this situation my best advice would be to talk to your loved one when she is stable. Communication is of the most importance in all relationships but is especially essential in relationships where one or more partner is struggling with a mental illness. Your loved one knows her situation the best and therefor will have the best ideas on what you can say to help her! 

Some other advice I can give is to keep in mind that you can’t change her mood, there are no magic words to make it all better, don’t put too much pressure or expectations on yourself. The best you can do is what you’re doing now, loving her and doing what you can to be there for her in the most proactive way possible. 

On that note, things to avoid are going to be anything about how her episode is making you feel, anything resembling asking her to feel better or when this episode might pass, pretty much anything that would be putting blame on your loved one for her disorder.  Now these are things you can discuss, sensitively, when she is stable. 

Anyways, I would suggest talking with her as soon as possible and trusting her input on what will be best for her!

xx Dev